If you have anger issues it could be effecting your personal relationships, your work performance, or just make you a person that others don’t want to be around. That’s why it’s a good idea to get rid of it as best as you can, and start being a person that is calm and nice.
There are a ton of reasons why people get angry, and end up having to go to things like anger management classes, or other forms of therapy. There’s just no way to pinpoint why some people get angrier than others or where these angry feelings come from. It could be something that was learned from an angry parent, or it could be from one event that keeps getting re-triggered from other instances. It’s something that keeps psychologists employed, and is beyond the scope of this page to get into all of the factors that lead to anger issues.
What we have assembled here are the best ways to get rid of anger that we’ve found, and that you can begin to apply to your life right now in order to try to dispel your anger and get back to a normal life. We don’t make any claims that these will work for you, and if you still have problems with getting angry all the time, seek out more professional help.
Best Way to Get Rid of Anger: Be Here Now
If you are angry, you are not in the moment. You are angry about something that happened in the past, even if the past was just a few seconds ago. Holding onto angry feelings is a way of keeping yourself trapped in the past. If you think about it, there’s really no reason to be angry at this very moment. In fact, by continuing to be angry, you are doing nothing but tainting your present moment with the things in the past that happened to you, and you are preventing good things from coming into your life.
This is why many tactics for getting rid of anger involve breathing exercises and counting to ten and so on. This is so you become aware of your present self and can create distance between what is making you angry and where you currently are. This is also why people do things in a fit of rage that they wouldn’t do otherwise. They simply aren’t present, they’re dealing with some issue that already happened and projecting the bad situation into the future, so they don’t care about what they’re doing in the present.
Runner Up: Avoid Provocation
Some people are drama kings and queens, and although they might say they want to get rid of their anger, they also feed off of the attention that it creates. This can make it hard, because they will actually seek out situations that make them angry as a way to justify getting angry. It’s hard to get angry when there’s nothing making you angry, so if you know there are things that make you angry simply turn a blind eye to them, or avoid putting yourself in a situation that you know will tip you to the dark side. When you combine this with the above tip, you are setting yourself up not to get angry very often, and when you do you know you can just focus on the right now moment and let it pass.
Where Does Anger Come From?
Anger has its source in many different areas of our lives. Many times a loved one will make us angry because we care deeply for them, and when they don’t act the way we’d like them to it makes us angry. Usually, people we don’t know don’t make us angry because we don’t care about them, although a total stranger can cause anger if they hit the right nerves. As far as evolutionary terms go, getting angry may have been a way for our early ancestors to establish dominance. By throwing an angry fit a person might have sent the message not to mess with them, or to leave them alone. But in our modern society it doesn’t really have a place, and is often looked at as being out of control and unstable.
How to Prevent Anger from Coming Back
You can try to avoid an unpleasant situation as long as possible, but sooner or later you’ll find that something that triggers it and makes you regress to your old ways. The best way is not to prevent it, but just be confident that when it does resurface you know how to handle it. This way you are not walking around like the Hulk worrying about someone egging you on into a fit of blind fury. You know that if you start to feel angry you can always reconnect into the present moment and let the angry feelings dissipate on their own.